I am beginning a series called Dear Andy, written as letters to my late brother exploring the issues of loss and grief.
It’s been nearly 9 months since you died. Though I had no reason to believe I would understand anything about grief, I realize I had certain expectations. Like with most things, I thought that with practice, it would get easier. As you know, I am ever the “achiever” and expect improvement when I set my sights on accomplishments. But, I am learning that grief is hard to conquer, or even control, because grief is a shapeshifter. Just when you think you’re starting to understand it, you don’t.