No Expectations: How to Be Happy

No Expectations: How to Be Happy

No expectations.   If we all lived this way I believe we would know more personally what it means to be happy .  It has been my goal to practice having no expectations lately, and I’m realizing how many times expectations take effect on choices and emotions.  For instance, last week there was a day that my husband arrived home later than I had expected him to.  I found myself getting more frustrated as his dinner became cold.  When he came home, it was not to the bright, cheery  and loving girl he thought he had asked to marry him years ago.  I had to then choose to change my attitude over the course of the next hour.  A few days later however, I decided not to expect him to be home at the time he estimated.  Rather, I recognized that I have been married for a few years now to a husband whose awareness of time is not his passion.  Rather than hold him to my expectations, I decided I would do my best to prepare dinner in a way that the last preparations could be done as he walked in the door; meaning I would do most of the preparation but try to be flexible about when it was actually warm and ready.  I also decided to drop my expectation that no matter what, we must eat together ALWAYS in order to be happy.  When my husband came in the door I was not even aware of what time it was, I was just happy to see him.  We ate our meal and enjoyed a great evening together.  What I noticed about these two different scenarios was that my husband’s actions were the same, but mine were very different.  I had essentially chosen my own happiness as it was not dependent upon what he did.

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