One of the more fun parts of my “job” is that I have an excuse to reach out to people I’ve been secretly stalking for decades. Take last month, for instance, when I met Susan Spungen for breakfast at a Union Square coffee shop. Spungen spearheaded the food section at Martha Stewart Living twenty years ago. We have her to thank for leading the team that put together the * Hors D’oeuvres Handbook , * which is not only my finger food bible, but the bible of caterers across America. When I heard she was coming out with a book on Entertaining – * What’s a Hostess to Do * ? – I set up a date, and over poached eggs and shaved asparagus, downloaded her hard-won wisdom.